The Secrets of Becoming a Confident Man: Social Circle

Confidence is contagious. So is lack of confidence.

Vince Lombardi

This is the fourth post in the series of posts called “The Secrets of Becoming a Confident Man”. In each post, I’ll share with you one secret of self-confidence. Today we’ll talk about your social circle.

Jim Rohn once said that you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. While you doesn’t necessarily have to be the average of the five people closest to you, it’s definitely true that people close to you have a great impact on you.

Are your friends shy or confident? Do they help you become more self-confident or drag you down and want you to remain shy?

Most people won’t tell you that if you want to become a confident person, you have to make some painful decisions. One of these decisions is to let go of some people – and yes, even people who you’ve known since childhood.

Once you stop meeting with people who have a negative impact on you, expand your social circle. Start meeting more often with highly confident positive people and learn from them. Supportive social circle will make your journey toward self-confidence way easier – especially if they can act as your teachers.

Where can you meet new people? Hit the gym, join local Toastmasters group, attend Couchsurfing events, look for a local club for entrepreneurs, take martial arts classes, take dance classes, travel. There are dozens of ways to meet new people.

Remember: people who are closest to you can have a great impact on you. Sometimes these people – and not your fears – hold you back the most. Analyze your social circle and don’t let negative people poison your life.

Life’s too short to spend it with people who don’t make your life more positive.