The Secrets of Becoming a Confident Man: Happiness

This is the second post in the series of posts called “The Secrets of Becoming a Confident Man”. In each post, I’ll share with you one secret of self-confidence. Today we’ll talk about happiness.

What is happiness? The shortest definition is simply “a mental state of well-being characterized by positive emotions”. When you’re happy, you feel joy, contentment, pleasure. I want to talk about happiness as something that you experience every day, not a temporary feeling after achievement, sex etc.

Happiness and your social life

So, why is happiness that important to your success? Because when you feel happy, other people can sense it. People are drawn to happy and positive people, so happy people have more proven friends and more support in life. Consequently, life is simply easier for them.

When you feel unhappy, other people can sense it as well. And most of them will avoid you. Don’t be mad at them – I’m sure that you also prefer spending time with happy people. That’s the reality that you have to accept.

Please notice that it means that if you’re a negative person, you’ll also have a very hard time finding a girlfriend, getting a new job (or creating a business) and achieving success in general.

Happiness and self-confidence

Okay, so happiness improves your social life. Is there anything else to it? Yup – it directly affects your self-confidence. Alex wrote in his post Are You a Man or Are You a Mouse? 3 Simple Tips to Become The Man You Dream To Be:

I love training with heavy weights, and here’s why: I feel good when I get my ass out of the door and to the gym, no matter the weather. I feel strong when I move more weight than last session. I feel happy when I’m finished – and the feeling stays with me for the rest of the day. I give more to the people around me when I have taken care of myself, and my energy levels are constantly pretty high.

That’s exactly how happiness works. You can’t help but feel confident when you’re happy. That’s why happiness is the second secret of becoming a confident man.

How to find happiness in your life?

To quote Alex again, the recipe is very simple: