The Secrets of Becoming a Confident Man: Achievement

This is the third post in the series of posts called “The Secrets of Becoming a Confident Man”. In each post, I’ll share with you one secret of self-confidence. Today we’ll talk about achievement.

Your self-confidence is (among others) the sum of your experiences. Successful people are usually more confident than people who haven’t achieved anything worthwhile.

If your life is a boring routine, chances are that you don’t face many challenges in your life. As a result, you probably don’t experience the feeling of achievement very often. And that makes it harder for you to feel confident. The feeling of achievement is necessary in our lives (it’s in Maslow’s hierarchy of needs).

Achievement builds your self-esteem. Every time you succeed in something, your self-esteem increases. The greater your achievement, the longer you feel confident. Big successes can give you a permanent confidence boost, while small successes usually give you a temporary confidence boost (which is also very helpful).

How to experience the feeling of achievement often

The easiest way to experience the feeling of achievement more often is to set challenges and take risks in your life. You can set a challenge to learn a new language in 6 months, get 5000 dollars as quickly as possible, squat at least 1.5 your bodyweight.

Set realistic goals and work toward achieving them on a daily basis. Even if you don’t achieve them as quickly as you would like, you’ll still feel a great confidence boost (not to mention that you’ll become a better man by striving to achieve your goal).

Keep in mind that until you give up, there’s no failure – only feedback. Don’t avoid doing hard things – the key to excellence is to study yourself falling.

Do you experience the feeling of achievement frequently? If not, what can you do to experience it more often?

Achieve more and you’ll feel more confident!