If you’re looking for advice on how to be outgoing, look no further. In this article I’ll share with you the complete step-by-step plan on how to go about it.
Let’s start with a quick introduction that will help you find out why you believe you aren’t outgoing enough. It’ll help you understand how to get rid of this problem!
How To Be Outgoing – Introduction
There are many possible reasons why you aren’t as outgoing as you would like to be. The most common ones are:
1. Low self-esteem
If you have low self-esteem, you believe that other people are better than you. As a result, it’s hard for you to interact with others and feel comfortable around people (because you believe that you aren’t equal). Of course this is stupid – read on and I’ll share with you some tips on how to improve your self-esteem and feel more comfortable around people.
2. Lack of self-confidence
If you have low self-esteem, you are usually also a shy person. Low self-confidence makes it very hard (if not impossible) to be outgoing. If you aren’t very confident, first you have to improve your self-confidence and then focus on becoming a more outgoing person. Keep reading – in a while I’ll share with you some ways to improve your self-confidence.
3. Personal preferences
Some people prefer to spend the majority of time alone. And that’s okay. The problem appears when you want to spend more time around people, but don’t feel very comfortable around others and it’s all because you don’t know how to be outgoing. Your personal preferences made you a person who isn’t very outgoing. The good news is that you can change it – just as you “learned” to not be outgoing, you can learn to be outgoing. I’ll share with you a simple step-by-step plan in a while.
Okay, so now you know three possible reasons why you’re not very outgoing. Now you probably want to ask me: “so how to be outgoing”? Here’s a simple step by step plan on how to go about it.
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How to Be Outgoing – Step One: Go Out More and Say “Yes” More Often
How often do you go out somewhere with your friends? If you want to become more outgoing, you should go out at least three times a week.
If nightclubs are your thing, go to nightclubs. If you’re into sports, practice some kind of sport. If you like music, attend concerts. The goal is to leave your home and do something fun with other people. Do something that you enjoy doing. There’s no reason to go to parties if you don’t like them.
Another question: how often do you decline invitations from your friends? This may be the most important reason why you aren’t very outgoing.
For the next few weeks say „yes” to every invitation. You heard me right, EVERY single one invitation. Don’t let fear hold you back („I can’t go out, people won’t like me”), don’t make excuses („people won’t be interesting”) and don’t be hopeless („that would never work because [random excuse]”). Just say „yes”.
How to Be Outgoing – Step Two: Join Local Groups of Shared Interests
One of the easiest ways to expand your social circle and improve your social skills (and that will tremendously help you become more outgoing) is to join local groups of people with shared interests.
If you like traveling, you can join local Couchsurfing group. There are Couchsurfing groups in almost every country in the world.
If you’re into business, look for some clubs for businessmen. It’ll not only help you become more outgoing, it’ll also help you build your professional network.
If you want to improve your social skills, join local Toastmasters group (it’s a non-profit organization developing public speaking and leadership skills). It’s a worldwide organization, so no matter where you live, you should find at least one group near you. It’s a great way to improve your public speaking skills, learn how to be a leader and of course learn how to be outgoing.
You can also try Meetup.com. It’s a website very popular with Americans and Canadians, so if you live in the US or Canada, you should easily find some interesting groups.
Last but not least, just use Google to find some local groups in your area. Google “[your interests] group [your city]” or something similar and I’m sure that you’ll find something for you.
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How to Be Outgoing – Step Three: Take Up a New Hobby or Sport
If you spend the majority of your free time at home, don’t be surprised that you aren’t very outgoing. Fortunately, you can easily deal with this problem – take up a new hobby or a new sport (preferably something social). It’s one of the easiest ways to improve your social life and connect with like-minded people.
If you’re looking for a sport that will help you improve your self-confidence consider:
- martial arts (MMA, Japanese martial arts, krav maga etc.)
- extreme sports (surfing, free running, rock climbing etc.)
- team sports (basketball, hockey, volleyball etc.)
Some hobbies that can help you become more outgoing include:
- learning foreign languages (you have to practice with people)
- hiking (hike with other people)
- survival skills (help you become a more self-reliant person)
Take these three simple steps and I’m sure that you’ll radically improve your social life and become a way more outgoing person.
To help you on your journey, I’ll share with you five bonus tips on how to become more outgoing. Here they are:
How to Be Outgoing – Five Bonus Tips
1. Improve yourself to increase your self-esteem
If you want to be outgoing and self-confident, you have to increase your self-esteem. The best way to do it is to improve yourself. Every day try to become a better person than you were the day before. Work on your everyday habits (eliminate bad ones, introduce some positive ones), learn new things, improve your skills.
2. Get outside your comfort zone to get rid of your insecurities and improve your self-confidence
The best way to improve your self-confidence is to get rid of your fears. And the best way to deal with your fears is to simply face them head on. Step outside your comfort zone on a daily basis and do things you’re afraid of. It’ll build up your self-confidence and help you overcome your shyness.
3. Surround yourself with the right people
People close to you have a very big influence on you. If you spend most of the time with negative and insecure people, you’ll become a negative and insecure person as well. If you start spending more time with highly confident and outgoing people, you’ll eventually become a confident and outgoing person.
Analyze your social circle. If you find out that most of your friends have a negative impact on your life, make new friends – confident and positive people who will help you become a better person.
4. Stop caring what other people think about you
Many people who don’t feel very comfortable around others act like this because they believe that other people are constantly watching them. That’s not true. Most of the time you think only about yourself and that’s exactly the same with everyone else. Every time you catch yourself thinking “what does he/she thinks of me?”, eliminate this thought from your mind and replace it with something positive.
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